My Girlfriend’s Laziness Is Driving Me Crazy – Daily Dilemma

The "Daily Dilemma" on the Sean and Richie Show is featured every weekday morning at 6:40am. We and the listeners take on someone's problems and try to offer different perspectives. Now, these don't have to be huge problems- it could just be something bothering you or a friend, or it could be some little thing you and another just can't agree on. If you have a dilemma to share we'd love to hear it just e-mail us here at the show.Here is today's Daily Dilemma:

My dilemma is that the woman I love, my soon-to-be wife, seems to be incredibly lazy.

The situation is this: We have been living together for over a year. We have no children yet. She is currently unemployed but had a part time job for 2 years prior to being laid off.  I have been work (at least) four jobs - 1 full time, 3 part time... an average of 70hrs/week... for several years.

To be fair, she does have some medical issues that sometimes make her have a few legitimately "bad days" each month. However, I am going CRAZY because 29 out of 30 days each month I will come home from a long day to... well... nothing. The dishes are piled up for days, the house is a mess, the laundry is piled up, dinner is still in the fridge. She is sitting on the couch with her laptop and phone, watching TV. This has been the same since the very beginning and it doesn't seem to get better or worse whether she has a job or not.

I plan meals and often cook (at least for myself since we're on different schedules), I do all laundry, I put away clean dishes, I take out garbage, I mow the lawn, fix the car, handle all finances, and on and on.. I've talked to her about it 10 times before. She agrees that the distribution of labor is unfair and she always says, "I'll do better," but she doesn't. I REALLY truly love this woman but I can't go on with 95% of the household chores and also money-making responsibilities landing firmly on my shoulders. I am exhausted and getting increasingly cranky and resentful. I want to have leisure time too! How do I get her to pick up the slack and do her fair share? I want to be kind and loving and I like taking care of her... but I want her to take care of me too.

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