I Want To Give My Dad Another Chance, My Mother Feels That Is A Betrayal to Her – Daily Dilemma
Here is Today's Daily Dilemma:
My father left my Mom when I was very young. She has hated him since I can remember, and it was when I was about 6 that he left. Before he left , he and I were very close.
When he left, he was just gone, no support, no real visits for a few years.
My Mom had to work hard to raise me and my little sister and there is no doubt he hurt us all very much.
Flash forward to now, I am 16, and my Dad has re-entered my life. He said that the whole relationship with my Mom messed him up, and they had both made many mistakes, he said it was pretty clear that them being together was a mistake but that I and my sister were never a mistake. Now I am cautious, and "forgiving" is not going to be an easy road, but I have decided that I want to let him try to earn my love and trust back.
Here is the problem, My Mom is crazy mad that I am even talking to him and hates him. She says she feels betrayed that I would "do this to her" after she sacrificed everything to raise me alone. And I really do understand her hurt.
Worse, than that she has my sister agreeing with her, so bottom line, trying to repair and forgive my Father. And I do love him. Is now ripping the family apart again. I am miserable about everything and I just don't know what to do.
Am I wrong to let my Father back into my life?
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