What’s More Important In Dating: Attraction Or Friendship? – Daily Dilemma
Here is Today's Daily Dilemma:
I am in my mid 20's and already have had some terrible relationships. I realized through talking to some friends that it may be due to the fact that I am pretty shallow when it comes to who I date.
Which brings me to the problem, I decided to be open to dating people that I maybe I'm not initially super attracted to, maybe try a relationship based more on friendship. Now I am dating a great girl, she is cute, not ugly at all but, not to be shallow but she is not nearly as hot as my ex.
I love being around her, we have so much in common, she is funny, smart and all my friends love her. I really love spending time with her and I feel like she cares about me more than anyone else has. I however, am just not physically attracted to her like I have been in the past. And even though my ex was impossible, crazy and a bit selfish, I find myself missing that "crazy in love , can't stop thinking about her" attraction.
I know most people will say, find a girl who is both, but that may never happen. So I guess my question is what is more important? Is it easier to acquire a deep love with someone you are not really initially that attracted to, or tolerate the sometimes very big shortcomings of a girl that makes crazy with desire.
The "Daily Dilemma" on the Sean and Richie Show is featured every weekday morning at 6:40am. We and the listeners take on someone's problems and try to offer different perspectives. Now, these don't have to be huge problems- it could just be something bothering you or a friend, or it could be some little thing you and another just can't agree on. If you have a dilemma to share we'd love to hear it just e-mail us here at the show.