Gift giving is one of my least favorite things to do, really. I love giving to people, and I love making them happy but the stress of it all really does get to me. I don't want to be the guy that gives something that someone hates, and being that I am a guy I will usually mess it up somehow. That's why maybe this guy isn't so bad. I think getting a gift card, especially a good sized one to a store you love to shop at can be a great present.
Her is what our listener wrote to us: "My of boyfriend of four years has, for the last three years, gotten me a gift card to a major store. I told him this year I DO NOT want a gift card, I want him to go out and purhcase something, bring it home, and wrap it! He asked me if he got a gfit card with more monetary value would that be okay and I told him "NO." I also told him what I would like for Xmas and where he coul...d find those things. Money isn't an issue as the gift cards are always a few hundred dollars in value, it's the principal and the fact that when Xmas is brought up, I have to hear about things (material things) he has bought his ex-girlfriends and ex-wife's kids. I feel that is it just a slap in the face. I have children and have taught them to buy for others since they were little and that gift cards should not be the main gift you give someone. I give gift cards for Xmas but not as the main gift.

My gifts to him are ALWAYS personal just for him. I know most of your listeners are going to say I'm materialistic and I should be lucky I get anything at all. Well, I was in that boat, too, when I was married to my ex-husband. It got to the point, where one Xmas he said, "I forgot it was Xmas." I was crushed and I didn't let him live it down especially when people asked what he got me for Xmas, I kindly said, "he forgot it was Xmas." So, wrapping this up, I wanted to know if I'm being too selfish."

We had a lot of fun with this one, It is amazing what some of our listeners got as presents over the years. Let's hear what the listeners had to say about this dilemma:

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