How Do I Handle My Boyfriend’s Kids? – Daily Dilemma
The "Daily Dilemma" on the Sean and Richie Show is featured every weekday morning at 6:40am. We and the listeners take on someone's problems and try to offer different perspectives. Now, these don't have to be huge problems- it could just be something bothering you or a friend, or it could be some little thing you and another just can't agree on. If you have a dilemma to share we'd love to hear it just e-mail us here at the show.
Here is today's dilemma:
I'm in a relationship with a full time dad.
I really adore this guy, and I don't know maybe it will turn into something serious, at the moment though we are going slow as we both know his situation makes things complicated.
The problem right now is he brings his kids to my house on the weekends they are with him. While I understand that they are part of the package when you date someone with kids, I have a lot of problems with how they behave. They rummage through my fridge looking for snacks, when they don't find what they want they complain. Am I supposed to shop for his kids now and keep their favorite things stocked in my house? When they do find something they eat and don't pick up after themselves. Overall, they pretty much treat my like I'm either not there, or there as their maid.
In his defense, he has yelled at them and he does try hard to keep peace and make them behave. My problem is, it's kind of getting to me and I don't know if it's something that will get better with time or worse.
I really do love this guy and could see us happy together, is it wrong that his kids may be a deal breaker? Does it get better with time, and if so, how do I handle the situation now?