Did Our Friend Overstep Bounds With My Girlfriend? – Daily Dilemma
The “Daily Dilemma” on the Sean and Richie Show is featured every weekday morning at 6:40am. We and the listeners take on someone’s problems and try to offer different perspectives. Now, these don’t have to be huge problems- it could just be something bothering you or a friend, or it could be some little thing you and another just can’t agree on. If you have a dilemma to share we’d love to hear it just e-mail us here at the show.
Here is today’s dilemma:
I have a girlfriend of a little over a year and I’m trying to deal with my jealousy issue. There’s a male friend we both have that I have been feeling jealous about. He is a very nice and genuine guy, who is also one of my good friends. From seeing them interact together, it seems that they are really compatible with each other. They have conversations very easily and they love to joke and challenge each other’s wits. Long story short, their relationship made me uncomfortable and jealous. I have talked to her about how I felt and she was very reassuring and understanding. She said she wasn’t attracted to him, and that she would avoid one-on-one hangouts with him if it made me feel better. I have since been trying to resolve these feelings of mine.
Recently she was chatting online with this guy friend. She was also having cramps and was in such pain that she had to continually halt the conversation and lay down. She didn’t tell him why she was in pain, and just laid down and stopped talking to him. She had no medicine in her house so couldn’t do anything but wait it out. She told me about her pain and I gave her a call to try to take her mind off of it. I couldn’t offer any real help since we live an hour away. After I got off the phone, he ended up calling her to check up on her, offering to come to her place and give her painkillers. She felt better at the time however, so she didn’t accept it. She told me this after and commented on how nice it was of him.
It may be just me, but I felt like he was overstepping a boundary by extending his help in this situation. I thought he was really going out of his way to help her. In my mind, I likened the situation to a boyfriend coming over to a girlfriend’s house to take give her medicine and take care of her when she’s sick.
Anyways, this raised my suspicion from the past that he is attracted to her. Is my jealousy founded, or am I overreacting?